I know this is a sensitive subject but one I feel I need to express an opinion about.  We recently visited our friends in CA - a female couple that adopted a little boy who is now nearly 3.  It struck me as I sat there watching this bright little boy interact with his loving parents how absurd our society has become in its judgments.  Those that know me know that I’m not bound by religious constraints in how I decide to live my life and how I view others.  I don’t want to make this about religion but typically those that have the strongest stance against homosexuality are religious and base it on the religious views they have.  I am of course not saying that all religious people have this view or judge people in this way - quite the opposite in a lot of cases, but religion is used as an excuse to condemn at times.  People quote the Bible when it is convenient for their cause but ignore the Bible when it is not convenient for them.

I am not here to debate whether homosexuality is right or wrong (although Adolf Hitler thought homosexuality was wrong as well - any belief system that you have that has something in common with Hitler, I would suggest examining).  I’m here to proclaim that we need to leave it alone.  We need to stop jumping up and down and judging others from our own insecurities.  The debate over gay marriage and gay adoption is ridiculous.  We, as a nation, have enough problems and we need to stop looking for reasons for our problems that don’t exist.  A gay couple that gets married has no negative impact on my life or anyone else’s life.  “Marriage is reserved for a man and a woman”.  “They are jeopardizing the sanctity of marriage”.  Give me a break!  We have a more than 50% divorce rate in this country.  We parade marriage on reality TV as an instant per series success.  Just because the history of marriage is rooted in religion and has traditionally been a man and a woman, we need to evolve as a society.  Just because traditionally woman were not part of the work force and stayed home didn’t mean that it was the only way.  Just because woman weren’t allowed to vote didn’t make it right.  Just because the color of a person’s skin dictated their standing in our society didn’t make it right (we’re yet to really solve that one anyway).  We as a society evolve but so many want to keep us in the dark ages.  They want to pull us backwards instead of allowing us to move forward.

The biggest fear of man is the fear of change.  Things that are different are immediately ridiculed and condemned.  We perpetuate this with our children and wonder why it persists as they become adults.  We point out people’s differences as if they are separators as opposed to opportunities for learning and growth.

A couple that loves one another and wants to share their lives together should be allowed to do so regardless of their genders.  To think that somehow it will be the downfall of our society or negatively impact our society is ridiculous.  Promoting acceptance of differences and embracing change is what will move our society in the right direction.  We, as a society, are in desperate need of positive change.  Sending a message of acceptance is a step in the right direction. 

To think that a gay couple is any less prepared or able to raise a child than a heterosexual couple is groundless.  Our friends’ little boy is a well adjusted, smart, and talented little guy that has more love around him than most kids could dream of.  There are bad parents regardless of sexual orientation but sexual orientation does not dictate ability to raise a child.  If traditionally heterosexual couples have raised children, than a look around at our society and where our children are at would suggest to me we should be giving our children to gay couples and give them a shot - maybe then we will see an improvement.  “The child is going to face ridicule as he/she gets older because he/she has gay parents”.  This I agree with but it speaks directly to my point - we as a society perpetuate this condemnation.  We teach intolerance and then turn around and use it as an excuse to prevent change.  John Lennon said it best in his song “Imagine”.

The Bible condemns homosexuality (it is a sin for a man to lay with a man as he does a woman) but so does it many other things that we ignore when it is convenient for us (check to see if your clothes are of mixed fibers).  Unless you completely understand the motivation of those that wrote the Bible (yes, many of you believe it was dictated by God himself and therefore law, but if that was the case, omnipotence would be hard to defend), then you should look at people for who they are through today’s standards and not the limited perspective of those that lived a couple of millennia ago.  Do you really think Jesus would condone our judgment and persecution of homosexuals?  We stand up for so many people’s rights but forget that there is no line to be drawn when we are talking about equality.    

You don’t have to like the idea of homosexuality.  You don’t have to befriend homosexuals (they probably wouldn’t want to be friends with you anyway if you are someone that has to think so hard about whether you should accept them or not).  What you should do is let people live their lives and realize how your judgments are a reflection of your own insecurities and your own limited perceptions.

OK - I know I said I wasn’t going to talk about this but one thing on the subject of homosexuality being right or wrong.  There has been so much debate about homosexuality as a choice versus innate to who the person is genetically.  The answer to this is simple - for any heterosexual person reading this - do you feel that your choice of being attracted to the opposite sex is a choice you made?  If that was the case, could you choose to like the same sex?  You might be saying “that’s ridiculous!  Of course I don’t choose to be attracted to the opposite sex - I just am” - VOILA!!  Whether you say it is a choice based on your genetics or not a choice and forced by genetics, the bottom line is, we do not simply choose what gender we are attracted to.  It is who we are inside that dictates this.

I know this has been strong but I’m simply tired of hearing so much negative about a group of people that don’t deserve it.  It is called “prejudice” for a reason - you are pre-judging people based on misconceptions - ignorance has a cure - it is called information.  Let’s move out of the dark ages and into the here and now.  Let’s look at our differences as opportunities for growth.  Let’s work to understand each other and accept people for who they are.  Let people enjoy what life has to offer through marriage and parenthood because it is the right thing to do.  We are how we treat one another - when history looks back on us, how do we want to be seen: as a judging and condemning society that persecuted an entire group of people or a society that grew with the times and accepted differences as positive change?

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